On the\u00a024th of March 2007, we got married. It was a\u00a0beautiful\u00a0autumn day, and from the garden where we congregated, we could see the ocean and the mountains that formed the cove of Hout Bay.
\nIt was an idyllic, picture-perfect, small and intimate wedding with only 80 guests. We adapted quickly to married life, but\u00a0there was constant bickering from his family, but he did not allow it to escalate. I appreciated that about him.<\/p>\n
The company he worked for made it possible for us\u00a0to relocate to Joburg.\u00a0\u00a0He\u00a0transferred in December. I was waiting for my transfer to go through,\u00a0but my husband assured me that it was going to happen.
\nA year after our wedding we were both in Joburg.
\nWe realized we could make things happen,\u00a0and\u00a0it was a testament to our love and desire.<\/p>\n
Three years went by so quickly, and Joburg was now our home.
\nWe hardly went to Cape Town, and if we did it was for\u00a0December break. We loved our new life. We were happy, comfortable and getting fat. As in obese. As in overweight.<\/p>\n
We wanted a baby,\u00a0but pregnancy was not happening due to our lifestyle: excessive\u00a0eating, drinking, and smoking, a good life. Once again,\u00a0we made a plan and went from being unhealthy to a super fit couple.
\nThe transformation was swift and everyone saw our change.\u00a0Even though\u00a0with the changes made,\u00a0we still did not have a child.
\nWe went for fertility treatments\u00a0and that drained us financially. We did not live that party life but we\u00a0could not do as we pleased socially. We had a goal,\u00a0and we always meet our targets.<\/p>\n
This target,\u00a0though,\u00a0was not going to happen and we decided to end this quest. I went back to my routine but,\u00a0he was obsessed with looking good and working out. I, on the other hand, became plump and somewhat happy.
\nHe was not happy with this way I wanted to live. He insisted I work out, eat properly,\u00a0\u00a0and\u00a0eat less junk. It was all about sculpting our bodies.
\nI hated this gym thing. It was not fun, but,\u00a0because I loved him, and wanted us to work, I did it.<\/p>\n
He was looking good, obsessed with his muscles and workouts. Looking back I can now see the vanity.
\nOur sixth anniversary was coming up and we planned a trip to Thailand.\u00a0He loved showing off his physique. I was laboring along in the gym,\u00a0but I looked good and felt good, he just wanted me to do more.<\/p>\n
This persistence was put to an end when in April 2013 I found out I was going to be a mother. We were delighted, I was thrilled\u00a0as this meant no more training for me.
\nWhile I planned for this child, our child, he continued with his training regime. We were in two different places,\u00a0and although I could sense this separation, these separate ideals, I paid little attention to it as I was going to be a mother.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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