I felt like I was doing something wrong. I felt bad for hurting his feelings as he made me feel that I was having an affair.<\/p>\n
He said: \u201clook what you are doing and we are not even divorced yet. Disgusting.\u201d<\/em><\/strong> He made it clear exactly how he felt about my alleged infidelity. I was scared and anxious, I spoke to my mom and she said I should call the police. I didn\u2019t.<\/strong><\/p>\n He bombarded me with messages wanting explanations for everything I said to someone else. He highlighted certain parts of my conversations and wanted me to explain. I stopped replying but he kept on calling and kept on messaging.<\/p>\n After a few days he asked if I am OK and if he should bring something for my neck and shoulders, he is sorry he hurt me. But he loves me. I asked him to leave me alone and he replied \u201cFuck No, you make things difficult and blame me\u201d<\/strong> Huh? What?<\/p>\n He decided to send the guy a message telling him how crazy I am and that my actions are all about trying to make him jealous because I don\u2019t want a divorce.<\/p>\n The guy refused to speak to me and he was ecstatic. He told me \u201cwell its clearly for the best, now you know he was never that into you, I did you a favor.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n I was absolutely defeated in every way possible, I thought I am never going to have a normal life, he will never allow me to move forward with anyone else. He will never let go.<\/p>\n I decided to withdraw, I went back in my cocoon and stopped dating all together.<\/p>\n Our court date was set for 7th<\/sup> August 2018.<\/p>\n My mom decided enough is enough and she flew from Cape Town a week earlier to prepare me for this ordeal. She forced me to set boundaries and while I was scared, I went through with it. This angered him.<\/p>\n My mom never knew that he had physically abused me, she only knew about the tracker and his obsession, and she did all this to protect me.<\/p>\n The day arrived and the divorce is finalized, no drama, no resistance.\u00a0 I feel nothing, he said he was sad. He asked if we could have lunch and if I could go with him to view a place he is interested in buying because I should have a say. My son will also live there. I agreed.<\/p>\n The estate agent kept on looking at me and eventually I tell her we are not together.<\/p>\n She says: I know, I am just wondering why you are with him and not his girlfriend.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n He has a girlfriend?<\/p>\n She says: He has her on his profile picture on another phone number.<\/p>\n Oh, and I walk out.<\/p>\n He was defeated and literally went pale from during this revelation. It didn\u2019t matter to me but clearly it did to him as he attempted to cover up this surprise. I was astounded that he still attempted to lie about this girlfriend, that he loved me, that everything he did was a mistake.<\/p>\n A mistake? The Divorce is done and now he realises this.<\/p>\n I truly felt sorry for this sobbing mess of a man.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I felt like I was doing something wrong. I felt bad for …. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[59,45,43,50,44,48],"class_list":["post-1264","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-chapters","tag-lies","tag-marriage","tag-relationship","tag-survive","tag-truth","tag-violence"],"gutentor_comment":0,"yoast_head":"\n