The following week I started researching lawyers, lawyers that could assist in these matters.<\/p>\n
He has been verbally, physically and psychologically abusing me even after our divorce was finalised, and enough is enough, it needs to stop. NOW<\/strong><\/p>\n 8th December 2018, I told my lawyer EVERYTHING<\/strong><\/em>, I was advised that this needs to stop, I need to make a decision and follow-through, something I was always afraid to do, but I had to this time, he is never going to stop,<\/p>\n He will kill me. I was more afraid of what he might do if he found out that I have spoken to someone about him, but nevertheless, I followed through \u2013 the plan was to send him a lawyer\u2019s letter, stating everything that he was not supposed to do according to our mandated court-ordered decree. I am hopeful that my lawyer will soon put everything in writing to him, but also nervous and anxious.<\/p>\n Over the next week or so I have very little contact with him because of that attack at the graduation. I refused to let him come into my home, I block him on all social media platforms and allow text and calls to come through so that we can communicate about my son.<\/p>\n On Saturday the 15th December at 7 am, I wake up to the following text message:<\/p>\n \u201cHi, please send me your email address, I need to send you an urgent mail.\u201d<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0The text is from his mistress\/whore. I never hesitated in sending my email address, I was curious to know what she wanted to say.<\/p>\n I was sure it was to tell me that they are still together, or to boast about something \u2013 but he had a different girlfriend?<\/p>\n A few minutes later I received the email, a shit long letter, and attachments to more emails. I read all of it, then I read it again, then I re-read it. I am not sure how many times I read it, but I wanted to make sure before replying that I understand what I am reading.<\/p>\n I replied and asked what the purpose of the email was, and what did she think she is achieving in sending me an email 2 years later. The exchanges between us lasted for about 2 hours that morning, she wanted to meet, if I was willing. She wanted to share her side of the story. She needed to face me, she needed to ask for forgiveness, and she wanted to make amends.<\/p>\n Again I wasn\u2019t hesitant \u2013 I wanted to meet her, I wanted to see what was so special about her. I wanted to see if she will really show up, to face me. I wanted to hear how sincere her apology would be. I wanted to understand why she thought she could make amends by just asking for forgiveness. I wanted her to look me in my face and tell me all these things.<\/p>\n And I said\u00a0\u201cLet\u2019s meet, tonight at 6 pm\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The following week I started researching lawyers, lawyers that could assist in …. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[81,60,43,50,44,48],"class_list":["post-1277","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-chapters","tag-anxious","tag-divorce","tag-relationship","tag-survive","tag-truth","tag-violence"],"gutentor_comment":0,"yoast_head":"\n